About 2 years ago I had lots of fears, one of them being shopping alone. I hated being in a shop on my own. I felt intimidated by people, I lacked confidence and hated being on my own. I don’t know what it was about shopping that made me so nervous, I felt uncomfortable around people so I hated having to pay and talk to people. I’d feel awkward, stutter, drop my purse, trip over the bag and all sorts of awkward experiences because I felt so uncomfortable.
“Everything you want is on the other side of fear’
I remember once I was shopping with my sister, she wandered off to look at something she’d seen and I was stood there in the middle of the shop, trying to hold back my tears, my heart was racing and I felt so scared. That time on my own felt like forever and I hated every second of it. I couldn’t stand being on my own for that short period of time and since then even the thought of being on my own in a shop sent me into a feeling of panic.
I have now overcome anxiety and I’m a lot more confident. Today I walked into a shop and spent an hour shopping on my own, without any feeling of fear. It wasn’t until after when I had come home that I realised what I had done and that it used to be really difficult for me.
Another huge fear I have overcome is driving, I would only ever drive with my mum or my sister in the car, not with anyone else and not on my own. I was afraid of driving to places I didn’t know, scared of getting lost, I worried about how other people drive and causing danger to me and I stressed over situations that very rarely happen.
I slowly overcame this fear by using a worksheet and tracking my anxiety before, during and after the experience. After doing this a few times I realised that after driving alone I felt calm, so there was no need for me to feel any fear before driving, I knew I would be fine. Now I drive regularly on my own, with others, long distance and to places I don’t know without a second thought.
Feel free to share any fears you have either by email to firstname.lastname@example.org or in the Facebook community and I can work with you to overcome those fears like I have mine.