When most of us think about success skills, they tend to focus on skills that are very traditional. For example: being smart, organized, or having good technical skills. But there are 7 Critical Skills that the most successful people use in their lives that define their success.
1. Be Inspiring
Inspiring others gives you a sense of pride like nothing else. When you inspire others with your attitude and actions they follow suit. A good example of this is the other day I was in line for coffee. I decided I was going to do something nice and buy a coffee for the person behind me. After I did that, the person behind me, in turn, paid for the person behind them.
I also happened to do this in front of my son who asked me “why did you do that”. Because when you go out of your way to be kind to others it inspires them to be kind to others as well. I told him my goal was to make this world a better place while I was in it. His response? I want to do that too! So not only did I inspire the customer behind me, I inspired my son as well.
2. Be Charismatic
Charisma is the ability to attract, charm and influence the people around you. If this isn’t something your good at the best way to become charismatic is to practice the following key factors. Confidence, exuberance, optimism, a ready smile, expressive open body language and a friendly passionate voice. Practice these consistently and you’ll be well on your way to becoming that inspiring, charismatic person.
3. Be Motivating
Being a cheerleader and a fan for others can be so motivating to people. Imagine how motivated you could be if you were your own biggest fan. Motivating others can obviously be much easier than motivating yourself. We tend to be too hard on ourselves. To motivate yourself, you need to see the bigger picture.
Imagine that goal you want so badly to achieve (let’s say losing weight). Now imagine yourself as that person who has already achieved that goal. They look pretty good, don’t they? Whenever you feel yourself slipping into the “I don’t feel like doing what I need to do to achieve this goal” imagine your future successful self and let their voice resonate in your mind. What would they tell you? They would say “I know you don’t want to work out this morning but look at me! I didn’t get this way by being lazy.” Put on your big girl panties and get to work!
4. Be Focused
For a lot of people, this can be difficult. When working on a project or something you may not particularly care for it’s even more difficult not to get distracted by that squirrel! Successful people understand that they need to block off time to complete tasks and put away all distractions, Facebook, phones, tv, kids etc. *For more details on why focus is crucial for success, read this post
5. Social Connection
Building good relationships is important in both life and business. Relationships are that stepping stone that could open the door to some amazing opportunities you wouldn’t have otherwise had. I was recently at a blogging conference and met a lot of people. I’m not as outgoing as I used to be but I pushed myself to get to know people. I got over 30 connections that have already blossomed into future collaborations. You never know where your next opportunity will come from.
6. How You Handle Stress
This can be a tricky one. Especially if you suffer from anxiety. When stress hits you when you have anxiety it feels like it can be ten times worse. One trick that I use that’s helped me tremendously is to have an anchor thought. Whenever I feel stress coming on and I start to get in an almost panic state I use my anchor thought which calms me down and helps me focus on what needs to be done to alleviate the stress instigator.
My anchor thought is my husband’s calming words of control what you can forget what you can’t. I use that logic to realize that I control my reactions and therefore I can control my stress. Try this the next time you feel stressed or anxious. This takes some practice, but once you get the hang of it, it works like a charm!
Being someone who suffers from depression and anxiety optimism does not come easy at all. My brain is usually thinking the worst of situations, not the best. But I’ve come to realize that’s the anxiety talking in my head. So I’ve learned how to trick my brain out of those negative thoughts and into a place of optimism. I’m going to share with you an exercise that will help you build the skill of optimism.
This task is NOT easy and you may find you need to practice this skill very regularly. For the next 24 hours, I want you to assume that everyone has the best intentions.
This task will help you build the skill of optimism. You may find that you need to practice this skill very regularly. For 24 hours assume that everyone else around you has the best intentions. The guy who cut you off on your drive to work, your best friend didn’t respond right away to your text, someone snapped at you at work.
We assume mal-intent way too quickly of people. So instead of assuming the worst of a situation or from a person, assume the best. Change your thoughts from “how dare they be so inconsiderate to cut me off, didn’t he see me there?!!” to “He must have to get to work really fast because he’s on his last warning at work and could lose his job” or maybe they simply just didn’t see me. Don’t torture yourself with assuming they have negative intent towards you. Master the ability to catch yourself when you go down that road of “you’ve done something wrong or this person is a complete moron” and instead shift your mindset to them having good intent. Trust me, this isn’t easy, but it works wonders towards optimism.
There you have it. The 7 Critical Skills of Successful People. I bet you have some practising to do!
About the Author
Kirsten Weinzierl is the owner of ObtainingBliss.com. She loves and truly believes in the power of personal development and has used it to work her way out of anxiety and depression. She writes with humour and discusses topics like relationships, parenthood, body happiness and her love of food. However, she also writes about tough topics like depression, anxiety, suicide, and domestic violence. You can check out her blog here
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