3 Steps To Feeling Happy
Are you happy?
It’s an interesting question and you’re probably thinking that your response is dependent on the day the question is asked. Some days you probably feel happier than others. Some days its hard to start feeling happy.
We all have days when we’ve woken up on the “wrong side of the bed”. Where, from the minute you open your eyes in the morning, you feel grumpy. You don’t know why. You just do, and you know that you’re going to have a bad day. When you feel like that, it’s probably true!
The shower water is too cold, your shirt has a button missing, you spill orange juice on your skirt, you hit every red light on the way into work only to arrive late… No wonder you’re in a bad mood!
Let me rephrase my original question: Who’s in charge of your happiness?
It’s true that you don’t have control of outside factors, but you are in control of how you react to them. If you wake up in a bad mood, it’s almost guaranteed that you’re going to have a bad day. Isn’t that a waste of a day though?
Let’s look at that morning again
I’ve read that a cold shower is good for the complexion, swap your shirt for another, put a jacket on to hide the stain and set off a bit earlier in case of delays. Its amazing what a change of perspective can do!
Which of the days do you think turned out better? Staying positive doesn’t mean that bad things won’t happen. It means that the bad things aren’t going to spoil the rest of your day. It does take some effort to see the good when things seem to be going against you, but positivity is a choice.
When you can’t control what is happening around you, control how you react to it. Its those times when you really don’t feel like it but yet you choose to be happy, that make the biggest difference. If you want to be happy, you have to be happy on purpose. Do you want to wake up and then see what sort of day you’re going to have, or do you want to be in control of your day and how you feel?
How to be in control
- Take a deep breath – take a moment to calm yourself down.
- Reflect on the situation – is it really as bad as you first thought?
- Reaction – now that you have taken a moment to put the situation into perspective, react appropriately.
If something goes wrong have a bad 5 minutes not a bad 24 hours! Get it out of your system and then move past it and let it go. The power is within you and your way of thinking. Happiness isn’t something that is given to you by someone else or some external situation. Happiness comes from with you. Do you really want something external to be in charge of how you feel?
Wake up earlier and have a morning routine to get you into the right mindset – read something positive, listen to a podcast, take some time to meditate or anything else that you enjoy and that outs you in a good mood for the day ahead.
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About the author
Lucy is the writer and editor for the positive mindset and motivational blog www.DreamLoveFocusBreathe.com
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