So 2018 has landed and there is lots of talk on social media about goal setting and springing into action. It’s easy to feel as though you must join in and set yourself an endless list of things that you think you should be doing.
As we say in the UK, keep calm. I’m here to tell you that you don’t need to rush into any goal setting just yet. It’s perfectly ok to take your time and use this month to give things some deeper thought. Be ok with where you’re at right now and know that this year will bring new things when you’re ready.
January is a time that we naturally still want to hibernate. So you can use the time that you have now to reflect on what’s important and where you would like to be. Spend some time dreaming about what you really want.
Many people feel as if they’re adrift in the world.
On reflection, maybe you work hard but feel as if you’re not getting anywhere worthwhile? Maybe you felt as though you set some goals last year but you couldn’t seem to find a way to obtain them? That’s ok too because I have a solution….
If this is the case, then you simply need to spend more time thinking about what you truly want. Setting yourself the right goals is important. After all, would you set out on a major journey with no idea of the destination you really want to be at? Probably not.
When you’re ready to do so (be mindful not to stray into procrastination), goal setting is a powerful process for thinking about your ideal future, and for motivating yourself to turn your vision of this future into a reality.
The process of setting goals helps you to establish where you want to go in life. By knowing more precisely what you want to achieve, you know where to invest your time and energy. You’ll also quickly spot the distractions that can, so easily, lead you astray.
As a coach, I often work with clients that feel in some way unable to obtain their goals or get stuck in the process. This can lead to feeling frustrating and in turn your mindset can become unresourceful.
Ducks in a Row
So when it comes to goal setting, there is something that you need to remember and it’s this; you need to have all of your ‘ducks in a row’.
The reason behind feeling stuck or frustrated is often because there is simply a duck that is misaligned or even MIA.
When I talk of getting your ducks in a row, there is a specific technique that can be used to ensure that you are fully aligned with your goals. Ultimately, it’s simply a case of checking in with yourself to ensure that your values (and some other things) are being met.
When you have a goal in mind, it’s useful to hold space for it while you explore your ‘ducks’ first because checking all that your ducks are in a row, will put you in the best position to succeed at achieving your goals.
There is lots of information about goal setting available – some very useful and interesting tips. However, before you even develop your goals, have a look at this checklist first and make sure that your goals are the right ones for you.
‘Ducks in a Row’ Checklist:
Areas to Align – Questions to Ask Yourself
What’s important to me? What do you love about life that you want more of? How do you want to feel in 2018?
What do I believe can / will happen for me? What will it take for me to fully believe that this is possible?
What do I need? Where can I find the resources that I need? Who can support me?
What do I need to do (and keep doing) in order to reach my goal? What helps me to overcome any blocks that I’ve had in the past?
Now you’re ready to formulate some goals. Taking into account the above, what do you want to achieve? (I recommend grabbing a copy of Lucy’s planner).
Still Feeling Unsure?
I believe that everybody has the capacity to be resourceful and think in a way that removes any limits to what we can achieve. Sometimes it takes a safe, confidential situation to help people clarify their goals. They may need to feel supported, challenged or explore new ways of doing things. If this is you then please come on over to my free Facebook community and join in.
Best wishes for 2018.
About The Author
Louise Creswick is The Transition Coach. Her purpose is to empower and coach people who are experiencing unexpected transitions, as well as those who want to make lasting changes for a more fulfilled and adventurous life. Louise works with clients internationally and is all about helping people to embrace change and achieve powerful mindset shifts.
Louise is an accredited Coach and NLP Practitioner and is a member of the National Council for Psychotherapists. Her academic background in Psychology, 13 year career in leadership and management, as well as her own life experience in navigating grief, anxiety and depression is packaged up to bring you a heart-centred and authentic coaching experience. Although Louise is a city-born girl from Birmingham, she now lives in the beautiful Shropshire countryside with her husband, Richard and four legged companion, Ben.