Do you ever feel overwhelmed with anxiety and have no idea how to manage anxiety?
That’s exactly how I spent a period of my life not that long ago. I had no idea how to manage anxiety. It all started with a few doubts and worries, getting upset easier than normal, feeling agitated, aggressive and a few other symptoms. I remember the day I finally made the phone call to the doctors and admitted to myself that I needed help, I was in a supermarket with my mum and sister and ended up in a huge argument.
I have no idea how it got to that, I couldn’t control my feelings and situations regularly spiralled out of control. There I was left alone in the car, sat in the drivers seat, crying on the steering wheel and realised that I couldn’t go on like this. It wasn’t fair on my family and it wasn’t fair on me. I called the doctors and as soon as they answered I couldn’t control my crying anymore. They booked me in to see a doctor that week.
The Doctors appointment was hard, I spent most of it crying and couldn’t explain why I was upset, what had caused it or what it was about. I didn’t have a clue why I was feeling the way I was. He referred me to a counsellor and I started weekly appointments with her the week after. I had to fill out a questionnaire that rated me at severe anxiety and depression. I didn’t even know what they were and what was happening to me.
The counselling sessions really helped, it made me recognise my fears of driving and activities alone, especially shopping. I also had a lot of support for anger management and knowing how to control my mood and prevent arguments from happening which made me a lot happier at home. So I started recording in a book how I was feeling every day, what had happened, how I reacted and what had gone well. I found that writing out my feelings really helped.
I also talked to my Mum regularly which made me feel really supported and comfortable with seeing the counsellor knowing that I had her support. Personally, I would recommend that more than anything, telling someone what you are going through – a family member, friend, work colleague or you can tell me if you prefer. Just telling someone what you are going through and having that support will really help you on your journey to managing and overcoming any challenges you are facing.
1. Tell someone – share your feelings. Don’t bottle it up, get it off your chest. You’ll feel so much better after.
2. Journal – write down your feelings, actions and behaviour of the day (good and bad). This will also help you to recognise triggers in bad mood.
3. Read – reading personal development books massively helped my mindset. The first one “Finding Peace In A Frantic World” was recommended by my counsellor and I’ve read 20+ since.
4. Seek the help you need – see a counsellor, a coach or any other professional to help you with techniques to manage and overcome anxiety.
5. Personal development – take the time to work on your mindset. There are so many resources out there that can help you – podcasts, courses, books and so much more. Just google search and see what you find.