3 Steps Towards Changing Your Life
In order for me to heal from my depression and low self-esteem, I had to do three things: think, feel, and take action – to simply put it. These are 3 steps towards changing your life.
Change doesn’t always have to be met with fear or resistance. We can simply make a conscious decision to change our lives and then act on that decision.
“The path to success is to take massive, determined action.” – Tony Robbins
Although, I know first hand that it isn’t always easy to embrace change. It helps to be guided with a simple formula to get us from point A to point B.
I will guide you through the steps I personally took to heal myself from depression and low self-esteem.
“You’re only ONE decision away from a totally different life.”
At times we might feel stuck in our ways or stuck in your mind. That is a sign that we need to step back and look at our situation or life from a different perspective.
Let’s get out of the loop that you want so desperately to break out of. The fact remains, you are the resistance to change and you are also the key to change. Winners and leaders take responsibility for their lives. My dear, you are a winner.
When we are feeling low, unworthy, and unloved it makes it that much harder for us to feel powerful or feel like a winner.
At our lowest, we feel despair, emptiness, and pain. Whether we have a smile on our face for the rest of the world or not. This is what we feel on the inside. I have experienced sitting in that darkness for a long period of time until I saw a shimmer of light.
Read: Managing Anxiety & Overcoming Fears
That shimmer of light is HOPE
It was a combination of willpower, faith, and hope that helped me to understand the darkness I placed myself into. When I started to take responsibility for my life, like the winner I am.
I started to become grateful for that shimmer of light, also known as, hope. It might sound biblical, but I assure you it’s not.
When I was depressed I didn’t want to live anymore. My life was unbearable and it felt like I was suffocating. I overate and therefore I gained weight. I wasn’t happy in my marriage or my life.
The only person who had the power to change my life and make it better for me, was me.
It wasn’t easy at all, but it was damn sure worth the sacrifices. I had to make decisions that wouldn’t make other people happy. I had to make hard uncomfortable decisions. However, it was necessary because I wasn’t happy the way my life was going.
Sometimes we make decisions that we think, at the time, are best for us. At times, we keep going along with that plan ignoring all the signs and synchronicities that is showing us another path.
When we ignore our intuition for too long, we end up in a situation that is unbearable.
Lesson: Be mindful of your thoughts, feelings, and actions.
Step 1: THINK
- Figure out the root of your problem
- Be honest with yourself about who you are and where you are
- Reflect on your life in the present moment
- think about where you want your life to go
- Think about your limitations and habits that don’t support the vision for your life
- Become aware of your negative and victim thought patterns
- Create thought patterns that support your future self, today
“At some point in your life, you’re going to have to start demanding what you deserve and be willing to walk away if what you require can’t be provided. ” -R. H. Sin
Question yourself
Question what’s around you
Seek the answers
Open your eyes to what’s around you
See me for who I am
Your vision is clear
Silence be when you need
Know
I will always be there – Siedah
Step 2: FEEL
- Be honest with yourself about how you feel right now in the present moment
- How do you want to feel tomorrow or the next day?
- How do you want to feel 3 months from now?
- Put your feelings into perspective
- Communicate or write down your feelings
- Be compassionate and patient with yourself and your feelings
- Understand that you are the master of your world and you are fully capable of being and feeling
“You can’t numb those hard feelings without numbing the other effects, our emotions. You cannot selectively numb. So when we numb those, we numb joy, we numb gratitude, we numb happiness. And then we are miserable, and we are looking for purpose and meaning, and then we feel vulnerable, so then we have a couple of beers and a banana nut muffin. And it becomes this dangerous cycle.” – Brene Brown
We run from our feelings
Will suppress our feelings
Instead…
Feel them
Embrace them
Let them flow on
Then
Plant your feet
And ground yourself – Siedah
Step 3: ACTION
- What steps do you need to take in order to create change?
- Change your thoughts
- Deal with your feelings
- Change your environment
- Walk away from what or who doesn’t serve you
- Walk towards what and who do serve you
- Be aware of what you read, watch, say, and do
We can run, skip, and jump
From path to path
You’re not stuck
Run towards your passions
Run towards love
Experience life
Just do it
On your terms – Siedah
You have two choices when you’re at that crossroad. You can either go down path A which will lead you down the path of repeating the same cycle you’re currently on now.
Or path B which will lead you on a new path which you’ve evolved and conquered the past. And now you’re healing and you’re a bit wiser than before.
The choice will always yours.
I chose path A a few times and repeated the same lesson over and over again, but it got harder and more heartbreaking.
If I can help you avoid repeating path A then I will by writing this article.
So I suggest going down the path that’s unfamiliar and yet what is healthy for your soul. It can be a bit scary, but you can avoid experiencing more pain and strife.
Embrace change.
Why?
Because you are worthy of the change you seek.
You are enough.
Do you currently wake up facing thoughts of doubt and feeling sick?
Not knowing where to start with improving the way you feel?
Imagine waking up feeling free and in control of your own life. Waking up feeling happy and ready for the day. Being able to confidently face anything that is thrown at you. Knowing fully how to feel free.
About The Author
Siedah is here to help you to change your mindset, heal and love yourself. I have been where you are right now- stressed, depressed, anxiety, and low self-worth. Struggling to find love and feel fulfilled in life. I chose to commit to my personal growth journey and began to figure out who I am and what I am on the earth to do. It was then when all the dots started to connect for me. The same can happen for you as well. Join our FREE Self-love and Personal Growth Facebook Community!
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